Danbury United Methodist Church

Pastor Karen Karpow

August 29, 2010

Luke 14.1, 7-14

 

Enough About Me

 

 

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Pray also for me, so that when I speak, a message may be given to me to make known with boldness the mystery of the gospel.  Ephesians 6.19

 

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Woodrow Wilson was quite a distinguished man.  He served both as President of Princeton University and as Governor of New Jersey.  Then, in 1912, he ran as the Democratic candidate for President of the United States. 

 

That was a good year to be a Democrat, because the Republicans were hopelessly divided.  Teddy Roosevelt, who had earlier served two terms as President, decided to run again.  He challenged President Taft for the Republican nomination, but lost the primary—so he formed the Bull Moose Party and ran as a third-party candidate.  In the general election, the divided Republican vote gave the victory to the Democratic candidate, Woodrow Wilson.

 

Sometime after the election, Wilson was visiting with his elderly aunt, who was almost deaf and very much out-of-touch.  She asked where he was working.  He shouted into her ear trumpet, "I'm the President."  She asked, "Of what?"  He shouted, "Of the U.S.A."  She snorted, "Don't be silly."

 

Maybe it would be a good thing if we all had a deaf aunt.  It would help to keep us humble.

 

Today’s scripture lesson centers on the word “humble.”  Jesus said (Luke 14.11):

"For all who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted."

 

We will see that in today’s scripture, humility—being humble—is the key both to receiving a blessing, and to being a blessing.  But what does it mean to be humble?  It seems to me that we often confuse humility with timidity or self-denigration. 

 

Humility has nothing to do with deprecating our own sacred worth, gifts, talents, and accomplishments.  The call to humility does not mean we have to give more, when we’ve already given too much—or conversely, that we’re not worthy to give what we have.  I have seen people get stuck in a spiral of “I’m no good, I can’t do anything right”—and that is not humility.  To disregard the good gifts that God has blessed us with is not humility.

 

As with so many topics, C.S. Lewis put it well:  “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.”

 

 

 

Today’s scripture reading is like two acts in a little play.  Jesus is at a sabbath dinner in the home of a Pharisee—which is interesting, and we’ll get back to that.  In the first act, Jesus observes how his fellow diners rush for the best seats, and offers them a parable straight out of the book of Proverbs (25.6-7).  He advises them to hold back from taking the best seats at a wedding banquet, even if they think they are Very Important People—or if they wish to be seen as to be Very Important People.  If they are not as important as they thought, it will be very embarrassing. 

 

We might be tempted to think that Jesus was out of touch, or that the advice he gave his listeners in the first century no longer applies in the twenty-first century.  Isn’t assertiveness the way to get what you want?  Go for it!  We might even misinterpret Jesus' words as a backdoor strategy for self-promotion instead of a call to humble service.  It would be pretty crazy if, instead of a rush for the best seat, there was a competition for the lowest seat, so that the winner could show off when called by the host!

 

Is Jesus giving advice on manners or how to get ahead in society?  No, he is making a point about where our focus should be.  The point is to be looking after the others, not jockeying for our own position. The best seats, closest to the host, go to the most important people—and the host gets to decide who is important.  It may be that the people who are most important to the host don’t look like much to others.  For all we know, the bride’s best friend could be the quiet, homely girl standing alone in the back.  But if we spend our energy making sure everyone gets a good seat, we may rest assured that there’s a seat for us, too. 

 

11 For all who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”

 

This is the rule for life in the kingdom of God—a reversal that turns our familiar world upside down to reveal a world with very different rules. God is the host at that table, and God gets to decide who gets the best seats—and it’s not who we would expect.  This is a major theme of the gospel of Luke, beginning in the very first chapter, when Mary sings,

 

51 [God] has shown strength with his arm;

he has scattered the proud in the thoughts of their hearts.

52 He has brought down the powerful from their thrones,

and lifted up the lowly;

53 he has filled the hungry with good things,

and sent the rich away empty.

 

Just as we would prepare for life in a foreign land by learning the language and customs, so we also need to prepare for the kingdom of God by learning and following kingdom rules now.  Indeed, the kingdom of God becomes a present reality and not just a future hope when we acknowledge God as our king and live by God’s rules.  Christians live with one foot in the kingdom of this world and the other foot in the kingdom of God.  We get to be with God forever, and we can start now!  At first it might feel a little weird, but life in the kingdom of God is, indeed, a blessing.

 

The second act of this little play is also about blessing—not getting a blessing, but being a blessing.  Being a blessing isn’t easy—don’t we prefer being blessed?  It’s easier to scurry around to times and places where we expect to be blessed—or to display the stuff we’ve accumulated that we think represents the blessings we’ve already got.  But God offers us an invitation to receive genuine blessing by being a blessing to others, through our everyday acts and relationships. 

 

Looking around at the assembled guests, Jesus turns his attention to his host.  Like most people, the host is inclined to invite those who can return the favor—those who have something to offer.  Jesus warns the host (and us) not to invite the people that he would enjoy the most (friends, brothers and sisters, relatives, or rich neighbors), and tells him to invite instead the people that he would enjoy the least (the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind). 

 

It has been said that the sign of a gentleman is how he treats those who can be of absolutely no use to him.  The same can be said of a Christian—and of Jesus Christ.  Jesus gave everything, even his life, for those who could never repay him.  Jesus calls us to trust God to repay what those in need cannot, and promises that God will repay us later—in our eternal life. 

 

But I have noticed that the repayment—or at least a down-payment on it—comes earlier than that.  As my dear husband loves to say, “You can’t out-give God.”  When we put ourselves aside, practicing the humility that C.S. Lewis describes—not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less—I find that we draw nearer to Jesus. 

 

And that’s where the blessings are found.  Suddenly we find that we have what we need—and anything we don’t have turns out to be something we don’t need.  Being close to Jesus puts everything in perspective.

 

Let’s go back now to the fact that a Pharisee would invite Jesus to dinner.  They are not likely friends—Jesus often speaks harshly to and about Pharisees, accusing them of hypocrisy and worse.  So why would the Pharisee invite Jesus?  Jesus has a growing reputation as a prophet, and that might be the reason.  Also, Luke tells us that "they were watching him closely," so they probably hope that Jesus will make a mistake that they can exploit.  Perhaps that is enough to explain it.

 

We might also ask why Jesus would accept such an invitation—from someone who very possibly means him harm.  Jesus ate with the powerless and poor—but that didn’t mean he had to exclude the rich and powerful.  His spirit is inclusive in every way.  While the pride of the elite might block them from receiving God's grace, that grace is nevertheless available to them.  It is not Jesus who withdraws from the sinner, but the sinner who withdraws from Jesus.  Our own pride might block us from receiving God’s grace—but it is always available.  And the antidote to pride is humility.

 

Perhaps you have been stuck at a party with one of those people who talk endlessly about their own fascinating selves, never stopping to inquire about you—so that it seems your only value is as an audience for their show.  Sometimes the best we can hope for is to hear, “Enough about me—what do YOU think about me?”

Humilty says, “Enough about me.”  It is not about thinking less of ourselves, but thinking of ourselves less.  When we turn our focus beyond ourselves—up toward God, and out to others—then we can open ourselves up to God’s grace. 

 

Let our prayer this week be, “Enough about me.”  Amen.
Luke 14.1, 7-14

 

On one occasion when Jesus was going to the house of a leader of the Pharisees to eat a meal on the sabbath, they were watching him closely. … 7When he noticed how the guests chose the places of honor, he told them a parable. 8 “When you are invited by someone to a wedding banquet, do not sit down at the place of honor, in case someone more distinguished than you has been invited by your host; 9 and the host who invited both of you may come and say to you, ‘Give this person your place,’ and then in disgrace you would start to take the lowest place. 10 But when you are invited, go and sit down at the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he may say to you, ‘Friend, move up higher’; then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at the table with you. 11 For all who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”

12 He said also to the one who had invited him, “When you give a luncheon or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or rich neighbors, in case they may invite you in return, and you would be repaid. 13 But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. 14 And you will be blessed, because they cannot repay you, for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.”